At our last class one of the people said that she was never more beautiful than she was now. Another of my pet peeves that I have ranted and raved about over the years. You don't lose weight to look good. It isn't enough, and sometimes/probably most of the time, you will be disappointed. You can't lose weight because you want to look good.
This is my humble opinion on looks. We humans all look alike.
We have been conditioned to see minutia differences, and those very small differences are the difference between being attractive and not.
My black German Shepherd is beautiful to me, but if you put two black German Shepherds of the same size in a room, I don't know if I would be able to tell which one was mine (or which one owned me). Maybe I would notice the grey in her neck, her eyes a bit browner? But truthfully they look very much alike.
And humans when they age, oh my goodness, those subtle differences are even harder to tell apart. My mother looks like so many other 91 year old women. She has lost some of her distinctive features, and on first blush if I saw her where I wouldn't expect to see her I may not initially recognize her.
Looks are based on differences, and those difference don't have to be visual. I remember first meeting someone and thinking that they were on the plain side, but after getting to know her, I couldn't believe I ever thought she was plain.
But sometimes those things you don't like on yourself is what actually makes you attractive or if not "attractive" noticeable. Weight does have a negative impact on how people view your attractiveness, but you can't expect life to change for you just because you lost weight and people find something else to look at other than your weight (if they acknowledge your existence in the first place.)
Just saying if you are losing to look good, or to catch a mate, chances are you won't keep it off. There has to be another reason to lose the weight. People just have to find it.
This is my humble opinion on looks. We humans all look alike.
We have been conditioned to see minutia differences, and those very small differences are the difference between being attractive and not.
My black German Shepherd is beautiful to me, but if you put two black German Shepherds of the same size in a room, I don't know if I would be able to tell which one was mine (or which one owned me). Maybe I would notice the grey in her neck, her eyes a bit browner? But truthfully they look very much alike.
And humans when they age, oh my goodness, those subtle differences are even harder to tell apart. My mother looks like so many other 91 year old women. She has lost some of her distinctive features, and on first blush if I saw her where I wouldn't expect to see her I may not initially recognize her.
Looks are based on differences, and those difference don't have to be visual. I remember first meeting someone and thinking that they were on the plain side, but after getting to know her, I couldn't believe I ever thought she was plain.
But sometimes those things you don't like on yourself is what actually makes you attractive or if not "attractive" noticeable. Weight does have a negative impact on how people view your attractiveness, but you can't expect life to change for you just because you lost weight and people find something else to look at other than your weight (if they acknowledge your existence in the first place.)
Just saying if you are losing to look good, or to catch a mate, chances are you won't keep it off. There has to be another reason to lose the weight. People just have to find it.
I remember many many years ago, a certain man took us out to his rose garden and proceeded to explain to us that people would either like our looks or would hate them. We would not be called "pretty or beautiful" but that our looks were exotic in that we didn't fit the standard molds. So, on that day we embraced that idea and ran with it! To this day, I find you beautiful and exotic regardless of your weight! That day was the only time that your father talked to me. Love you T-Bird, Kimmy
ReplyDeleteAs best I can remember you (cause I haven't seen you in so long) you have always been beautiful. You just need to know it
ReplyDeleteBoy, that's a great Slez story! He did love his garden. T3 has had a mate for a long time & I must admit I find T3 to be incredibly lovely and kind! She WOULD know Thunder because Thunder would leap on her & knock her down while covering her with kisses.
ReplyDeleteI lose weight to only look better. My face looks better, clothes look better, and this is the only motivator for me! It's interesting that's not a motivator for you - is your motivation health? Or so you can do more exercise? I exercise so I can lose weight so that I can look better :)
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