So I think it is pretty universal that you have a tendency to compare yourself to others. I know I have seen large women and thought I am not as large as they are. The truth may be that yes I am as large as they are, we deceive ourselves and have no true idea what we look like.
I hated cameras because they gave me a true image of myself and I hated that image. When I look in the mirror I don't see the full cheeks, the jowls, the double chin, the squinty eyes, I don't see that, I see just me. And now when I look in the mirror I don't see the weight loss, though the scale tells me so. And I go by the scale. The scale says I have lost 53 pounds, and I know that I still need to lose at least 50 more.
J says that she needs to lose 25 more pounds, I see her close to goal, she looks normal weight to me, and I think okay maybe if I lose 25 pounds I will look like I am close to normal weight, and yes I probably need to lose twice as much as she does to get to the same place. But sometimes people say that they have such and such to lose and you look at them and think what planet are you on? Really that is all you need to lose? I then I think how petty are you. Maybe they weigh light. I know I am a bit denser then most, and I am always surprised at times at how little some weigh when I would have guessed much heavier.
One friend looks large, but she was born with a tiny chin, so she has a perpetual double chin, she looks heavy in the face, but really she is only about 20 pounds overweight. Some people carry all the weight in visible places and you see the weight, but others carry it all over and it is harder to see them. A 200 pound person who carries it in the stomach you would say she is obese, a 200 pound person who carries it evenly distributed you would consider overweight. I carried it in my stomach until I had a tummy tuck. Now it is all in my thighs, I can hide my thighs. Nobody needs to know. Of course that doesn't work when I am swimming.
Still, I think people don't tell the truth when saying how much they need to lose, and if I am not being petty I guess that is okay.
I hated cameras because they gave me a true image of myself and I hated that image. When I look in the mirror I don't see the full cheeks, the jowls, the double chin, the squinty eyes, I don't see that, I see just me. And now when I look in the mirror I don't see the weight loss, though the scale tells me so. And I go by the scale. The scale says I have lost 53 pounds, and I know that I still need to lose at least 50 more.
J says that she needs to lose 25 more pounds, I see her close to goal, she looks normal weight to me, and I think okay maybe if I lose 25 pounds I will look like I am close to normal weight, and yes I probably need to lose twice as much as she does to get to the same place. But sometimes people say that they have such and such to lose and you look at them and think what planet are you on? Really that is all you need to lose? I then I think how petty are you. Maybe they weigh light. I know I am a bit denser then most, and I am always surprised at times at how little some weigh when I would have guessed much heavier.
One friend looks large, but she was born with a tiny chin, so she has a perpetual double chin, she looks heavy in the face, but really she is only about 20 pounds overweight. Some people carry all the weight in visible places and you see the weight, but others carry it all over and it is harder to see them. A 200 pound person who carries it in the stomach you would say she is obese, a 200 pound person who carries it evenly distributed you would consider overweight. I carried it in my stomach until I had a tummy tuck. Now it is all in my thighs, I can hide my thighs. Nobody needs to know. Of course that doesn't work when I am swimming.
Still, I think people don't tell the truth when saying how much they need to lose, and if I am not being petty I guess that is okay.
This is so on point. So let me just say I need to lose a lot. But you don't!!!!! Again you are my diet hero.
ReplyDeleteI need to lose 50 more pounds (maybe more), but I'm shooting for 35 pounds in 2017. T3 is more disciplined than I & has fewer client obligations for lunch/meetings/etc - I've started eating soup & salad, but it's still hard. T3 visibly has lost a bunch & she's inspired me to try and then succeed. My puppy (Today) needs walks - too bad my knees are shot, but losing weight will help all of our family.
ReplyDeleteDinner and happy hour with friends is very hard for me too - I also use your strategy to only order salads or roasted chicken, and limit my drinking to one glass of wine...but it's always hard, especially when friends say "is that all you're having?"
DeleteAmen to the "is that all you're having" reply - I hear that often usually accompanied with "how about splitting xxx with me" while we have another drink.
DeleteI probably should lose another 10-15 lbs but I'm not sure I can stand another 4 months of dieting because I am only losing 1 lb/week, so I tell people that I only have a couple more pounds to go. Maybe people are saying their goals, but not where they *should* be?
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